I am about to be 74, have had this problem since I was about 13, and only THIS YEAR, following a stay in hospital, where I first openly discussed my problem with a nurse, have I found that I am not alone with this problem, and this realisation has been a real eye-opener for me! Even when I subsequently asked for advice from my G.P. she too was unaware of the condition of paruresis. She referred me to a specialist nurse, who told me it was a recognised condition and gave me some literature to read, and I have gone on from there.
I am currently reading Carol Olmert's really interesting and informative book "Bathrooms make me Nervous", which I purchased online, and reading this I realise I also have other "phobias"
related to my paruretic anxieties, in that I shy away from using ATM machines if there is anyone else about, and try to have a friend with me when I need to fill up my car with petrol, as I panic when there are long queues of people at the pumps and can't manage on my own! How weird is that?
I think the idea of a pee buddy is a good one, but probably not realistic unless living close by. I live in Kent.
I hope we can share some more views/experiences.
What a good idea this new forum is. There did not seem to be much for "women only" on the U.S site which could be relevant for ongoing sharing.
Well done, Andrew and thanks for setting this up.