I see Andrew will be responding again soon so you'll get a response from him but I want to add that he is not alone. I'm 42 and have suffered from ap for as long as I can remember too. I have told nobody about this but my wife and I only told her because I'd signed up for the beginners workshop and wouldn't have got a weekend pass without telling her! :-)
I can honestly say the workshops are fantastic! Yes they're a little nerve wracking to begin with but you soon realise you're with a group of guys who understand exactly what you're going through. I've done the beginners and 1 follow up and both weekends have been very positive and, believe it or not, fun! If I could offer your boyfriend one bit of advice it would be to get himself on a workshop. He wouldn't have to stay if he didn't like it but I'm pretty sure he would stay and he'd also come away from it feeling much better!