I realize this is the men's discussion board, but I'm hoping to get some advice from your perspectives as well. My boyfriend has been suffering from paruresis for as long as he can remember, but has just recently opened up to me about it. He did not tell his parents until he was 20 years old. He tells me he feels embarrassed and weak because of it, but he refuses to seek help. He resists my suggestions to try therapy and is convinced it is something he can fix on his own.
Does anyone have any experiences to share that might help me get him to open up? I wish he didn't feel so ashamed of it. I know he often lies to me when he can't urinate to avoid a discussion about it. How can I help him? He doesn't want sympathy; he doesn't want therapy. From my perspective, he's been battling this on his own for a while, and I want to help him make a change.