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I have suffered with inability to pee in public urinals and in other social situations for 50yrs. I have tried various things that seem to be covered by others on here. It has impacted on my life but I have never had the courage to tell anyone apart from a nurse when I had an operation as a day patient. She was sympathetic which was a relief. I was supposed to pee before leaving but couldn't so said that I had and she believed me. I have been close to telling my wife but just can't. Yes I know that's silly. I am usually fine when visiting close relatives but always panic about any other situation. I just know I won't go so don't bother. Recently I have tried wearing incontinence pants and going out for a walk. Surprise surprise I can start and stop easily and have even been chatting to someone and been able to start. I don't let it stream as I don't want to be walking around like that. It just proves to me that I can go and control when I go, so what on earth stops me in other situations. I have no hang ups about being seen by others in a public urinal. I go swimming and walk around into the showers naked. I could go on but I'm sure it's the same story that's been written before. I can't get to any workshops due to there proximity and getting away on my own. A pee buddie would be great but finding one is difficult. I'm on the Hampshire/Dorset border if there are any self help groups.