I have an old co-worker at a job I used to work two years ago. Let's call him Jason. He can't understand why I never made an effort to do stuff together, like hang out, go for a beer and watch the football. I was the assistant manager at the time. Before I become assistant manager I used to feel like one of the boys - anyway I used to feel like he didn't hold me in very high esteem and so if he was in the changing rooms I used to struggle to pee.
He can't understand why I used to invite other people to my flat and not him. I know two other guys who also have issues of low confidence and self esteem so I feel more comfortable peeing around them. But Jason is a very confident young guy, girls love him and all that. Maybe I wanted to be like him and that's why I avoided inviting him to my flat. The thing is he's a real nice guy and I know he wouldn't have judged me.
I've explained to him about shy bladder and the crazy things it makes you do but he still doesn't get it. Is there some other way of telling him this? Was it because I was his assistant manager and I didn't want to appear weak?
What do you think guys? Have you any experience with this?