For me, its a case of how you react to the 'boo monster' when, and if, it makes its return. Even though I can pee 95% of the time wherever I am. I walk to the toilet accepting the fact that I might not be able to pee. I decide before hand that its ok if I don't pee. I accept that, ok, I might try and be disappointed if I fail, but I am doomed if I don't try.
What matters to me is I at least made an attempt at peeing. I remind myself that at least attempting to pee is a far superior strategy than avoidance i.e. avoidance being when I deny the fact that I need the toilet by lying to myself.
I "respond" to the boo monster with indifference - and in doing so, steal its thunder. You see, the boo monster waits in the background, plotting when it will make its next grand appearance. When you respond with indifference you take away its power. If you "react" with, "Oh no I can't believe this crap, I can't believe this is happening to me again ect" then the boo monster thinks 'oouu this is great I made an appearance and got a huge reaction, this is fun. I wonder what he'll do next time I appear?'
If 'The Boo Monster Strikes Back - Part II' is a box office hit, then it'll return for a Trilogy.. show it that you don't care any more and it'll leave you alone.
It takes practice and you have to be totally present, but it can be done.
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