Posted by Roy C. in regards to your girlfriend and marriage, maybe you have these so-called "non reasons" to break up because you don't know if you're mentally (and spiritually, if you think that way) prepared for such an idea so soon. maybe you think you need to live life some more and live it up because - hey - you're young. perhaps the idea of marriage is suddenly making you feel choked off, like it's a (figurative) death sentence in the not so distant future. sure you want to be with her, but maybe you don't want to close the book on this portion of your life so soon. as for finding a job in your field, make sure you prep yourself early. honestly, if you feel comfortable enough with your academic abilities, why not send out your resumes and applications before you actually graduate? tell them you are still in school doing such-and-such and are looking for a job in the near future? it doesn't hurt to get your foot in the door now after all. live. love. thrive. each of these three words have both positive AND negative connotations to them. without both, however, there would never be the happy medium that keeps us all sane and under control. be happy that you have a girl and that you have a good education going towards a career. be proud that you have a healthy upbringing and that you'll try to do what you think is right. and be honest to yourself. deep inside, you know what you'll ask of yourself. with a bit of will, it'll happen. Roy C. --Previous Message--
on June 6, 2005, 3:06 am, in reply to "Thoughts of the future"
there has got to be a reason why you feel like something isn't working. to consider death isn't an idea most people will think for lack of anything better to do. at this point in time, can you look at your life and get at least a general perspective on what is making even think about these things?
GYN Head Counselor
: I just finished my freshman year of college
: and I just have conflicting emotions in me.
: I know that I belong at college and I’m
: enjoying it there but it's everything else
: that I don't know about.
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: My girlfriend of 2 years is talking about
: marriage and I don't know where I can get a
: job and every now and then just want to stop
: life. Part of me longs to spend the rest of
: my life with my girl but I keep having
: irrational thoughts of breaking up with her
: for basically no good reason. The job is a
: work in progress I know that I can face that
: one when I graduate. And every time I try
: to convince myself that I can kill myself, I
: just end up discouraged that I can even hurt
: myself anymore.
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