Posted by Roy C. --Previous Message-- Then my dad again, sometimes you may be the more mature one and that would mean you'd have to go initiate conversation again. any proper parent ought to be able to be serious to their own child in saying why they are feeling very uncomfortable with what you are doing or have done... the question is, have you tried to get him back? with that said, first loves can usually mean alot but if he doesn't see you that way anymore you're gonna have to force yourself to see otherwise or else it'll just keep hurting. but unless you have more questions on this, i've said enough for now. considering what you have to do to dissuade her that you aren't interested nor that you want to be known as friends, there really isn't much else you can do. hopefully all the jabber will slow down to a standstill. and don't worry about being complemented by someone of the same gender. sure it may feel weird but at least it's probably a statement that most people would agree with (inluding the guys). that's just my thought, however. all the best, Roy C.
on February 2, 2004, 1:03 am, in reply to "My world is falling apart."
i'll chop this into parts so i can try to cover as much of what you wrote as possible.
: OK, the sh*t is hitting the fan.
: My parents are really bothering me lately.
: Especially my mom. She yells at me for
: things that shouldn't get yelled at. For
: instance, I asked her if we could go to the
: library later on in the day when there was
: time. She was in her room, just sitting
: around, and when I asked she blew up and
: yelled at me. I've been trying to be a good
: kid for her, I really have. I say things
: softly and respectfully and I do things for
: her without being asked to. It bothers me
: that she doesn't seem to care.
parents are always funny people, especially when we are their children. i can't say i know why your mom is behaving the way she is but perhaps she's so stressed out from her life that you happen to be the only one she can take her anger out on and not face any repercussions. (i'm not saying she's doing just that but it's possible - but a VERY VERY WRONG thing to do 
) although you don't want to be the one that "gives up" by talking to your mom after this spat, sometimes a little bit more talking is needed. hopefully, this time she will be more communicative.
: doesn't talk to me anymore. I think it has
: to do with the fact that I'm in the
: gothic/punk crowd. I just entered highschool
: and I fell right into that group. Don't know
: what it was, but I associate with people like
: that and they seem to like me too. I have
: friends for a change and my dad thinks I'm an
: idiot. He gave me a big lecture when I asked
: if he could help me buy a pair of boots on
: the internet. It ended up in a big arguement
: and we've stopped speaking to each other.
: Next in line; my last boyfriend. Ok, I know
: that's the oldest one in the book but this
: guy really meant something. I've had one
: really true boyfriend (who ended up cheating
: on me with his ex who was also my friend) who
: was the love of my younger life. Then I had
: one or two short ones, which is strange for
: me (I normally have longterm relationships,
: I'm picky). Then came this awesome guy. We
: had a lot in common and enough not in common
: to be individuals. My best friend even said
: he was perfect; and she's more picky than I
: am. He was also my first kiss and that meant
: a lot. I see him everyday at school and it
: kills me. We even have a ritual durring
: lunch where he walks up to me, ruffles my
: hair and says hi. I love the attention and
: yet I hate it. It hursts and I really miss
: him alot. I would give anything to have him
: back.
: And last but definitely not least; My
: second-friend, who is gay, told me she has a
: crush on me. I didn't like her to begin with
: because she's like a leach. To me at least.
: She acted just like me in the past and did
: everything I did. She'd say something and
: I'd say something different and she'd change
: her statement to mine. It bothered the heck
: out of me and I finally had to break the
: friendship when she said something really
: mean about my best friend. Well, she never
: left. She continued to botehr me and
: unfortunately I had/have a lot of classes
: with her. And this year she announced that
: she's homosexual. This doesn't bother me at
: all, I have a lot of friends that are bi or
: gay. It doesn't matter. But I am straight
: ("as an arrow" quote one of those
: friends) and this girl told me I have "a
: nice ass"--Dead serious, she said those
: exact words--so it bothered me a bit. Then a
: week later she said she has a crush on me and
: word spread quickly. So now there are rumors
: about me and her, rumors of me being a little
: "cruved" in my sexuality, etc.
: I've been avoiding her as much as possible
: and giving her the cold shoulder (I have to
: cuz this girl can't take a hint for her life)
: and she seems to have backed off a bit. I'm
: still a bit tweeked by the whole thing.
: So my life is a rollercoster right now and
: I'm ready to curl up and die. Got any
: advice?
: ~S
: Oh, I'm journalling a lot lately... my
: therapist is overjoyed. ^_^;;;
:
hopefully i might have said something that helps you see an outsider's perspective on your situation. if there's anything else that you may want to talk about, you can reply or email me and i'll try my best to answer any more questions you may have.
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