Posted by Ryan on September 5, 2005, 9:49 pm In some cultures, the whole social situation is completely different in ways you would probably never have imagined that any could be. Maybe in some ways it may seem like a total cure as far as the legal and social problems that result from it. But it also makes it a setback as far as treating the condition. Maybe for some men who have no concern about what effects their addiction is having on its innocent victims, who just want to indulge in it without restraint, it might seem like a paradise, like living and being able to enjoy life giving in to their vices in a consequence-free environment. But for someone who has more of a grasp on reality, and a concern for the feelings of the community, who is trying to cope and come to terms with balancing his feelings, emotions and sexuality, stumbling across a no-hold-barred environment and being able to indulge himself in it can be a stumbling block to making progress. This is the way it happened to me. ______________ In this story I can’t say the name of the country it was that I went to, because during one of the times when I was there, after my relationship with my girlfriend in the U.S. ended, there were two women I had sexual relationships with that I’m going to tell about here, whom I didn’t end up marrying, and in their culture it would cause them terrible shame if such a thing were to be told publicly. The Internet can be read all over the world. One of the two women I was involved with was a university professor, and in their country there aren’t very many woman university professors (much less universities), so, that information by itself could be enough to enable someone to figure out who she is, and that might cause her to be branded an “immoral woman”; it might even lead to her losing her job and career because of it. And the other girl was the daughter of one of the local employees of the charity organization overseas. Her identity could be discovered that way. But if I just don’t reveal what country it was, that should make it general enough that no one there will be able figure anything out, just in case someone in the wrong place over there who understands English were to stumble across this site (although that may not be very likely). Names of Americans are changed, but because changing the foreigners’ names would still reveal their language, in the case of foreigners, names have been deleted. Likewise, some of the circumstances have been altered in the interest of protecting identities (including mine). Link: Post a response
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(Originally posted November 7, 2003, 6:41 pm)
When I took a job with a charity organization, living and working overseas, I discovered, quite by accident, that for someone who has spent any time struggling with an addiction to the BDX and the complications in life that result from it—apprehension by police, permanent stains on criminal records that can be viewed by the public, loss of acceptance by friends or family, loss of jobs and employment opportunities, rejection by a society that understands very little about the disorder—one may find that visiting and living abroad in some countries changes the entire scenario.
