Posted by Linda on 6/12/2005, 6:20 pm, in reply to "Re: hello!" --Previous Message--
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I the issues that come up with couples can lead to the richest work, both individually and together. It's very difficult though and most people bounce on to the next. But it's very sacred that you both can see the issues in the mirror.
: yes, now that i've been able to
: recognise that i have work to do it
: does feel as if we're together in
: this, but it's taken me a long time
: to wake up and smell the roses!
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: with hindsight i can see that i've
: been in denial and it took an act of
: desperation by my partner to finally
: get the message home. it wasn't
: until i could say to her that i've
: been disconnected from my feelings
: that the spell broke. that lanced
: the boil and opened up a whole load
: of painful stuff for us to each work
: through. i'm hopeful that we can
: emerge from this together, and
: perhaps stronger. however, i guess
: that depends on where our respective
: processes take us...
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: --Previous Message--
: : It's very positive and inspirting
: that you and your partner are coming
: to this realization TOGETHER. That's
: something I envy. Keep up the deep
: work
: --Previous Message--
: hi Linda, good to hear from you.
: it's
: inspiring to know that you've been
: working with EC for so long and have
: such a strong commitment to it.
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: bodywork (and breathwork) is a
: challenge for me too. i've flirted
: with yoga and did some self-taught
: t'ai chi for a while, but nothing's
: stuck. maybe there's more of an
: incentive now.
:
: i'm presently in the middle of a
: crisis with my partner of nearly 4
: years. we've just realised, with
: considerable shock, the extent to
: which our patterns have locked into
: each other's to repeat past
: abusive/codependant relationships.
:
: a positive outcome for me is that
: some painful supressed/repressed
: feelings have burst through to the
: surface, giving me an opportunity to
: start this integrative work. i've
: realised how out of touch with my
: feelings i've been, and how damaging
: this is, specially to the the one i
: love. the section on relationships
: in John's book is proving specially
: helpful and i know that i have to
: withdraw the projections of love and
: happiness that i've put onto her and
: find them within myself.
:
: it's uncomfortable work, but i
: accept that it's got to be done and
: i'm grateful for the guidance and
: inspiration i'm gaining from EC. it
: feels as if a whole new world may be
: opening up, and that the real me is
: in there somewhere, waiting to
: emerge...
:
: neo
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: --Previous Message--
: Hi neo,
: I tend to adapt John's methods a
: tad, too. But I do think his basic
: guidelines are so solid. I've had a
: hard time with the bodywork part,
: but have given myself a lot of time
: on that part because I have some
: severe abuse issues.
:
: I see this work as a lifelongh
: adaptation and the meditation and
: clearing techniques as something to
: use for the rest of my life.
:
: --Previous Message--
: hello people!
:
: i've arrived here via a circuitous
: route with many blind alleys and
: lost highways! this feels like it
: may be an oasis in the desert...
:
: the catalyst that brought me to
: Emotional Clearing was my partner's
: disillusionment with my inability to
: respond appropriately to her on a
: feeling level. when she all but
: dumped me in frustration, i realised
: how i was hurting her by acting out
: unconscious behaviour patterns
: rooted in disconnection from my
: feelings. i finally accepted that I
: needed therapy. next morning i
: received an email linking to one of
: John's articles...
:
: i've read most of the book and have
: started practising, though i've
: adapted John's process a little.
: right now i feel as if i've been
: thrown out of balance and am
: struggling a bit to keep my mind
: focussed for work purposes, but i'm
: using this to practice acceptance.
: it does feel as if i may be on track
: at last...
:
: i look forward to more sharing...
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: neo
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