Posted by PS on 9/27/2004, 7:37 am, in reply to "Re: blame & self blame" --Previous Message--
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Thanks for asking this question. It helps me focus, too. Funny how authentic sharing and open up the next thing you're spirit/soul/body needs.
: : Well if the idea is to accept that we
: are filled with blame for
: ........(fill in th blank) Then I
: think a good approach would be to
: focus in (intensely) on the feeling
: of blame. Pick an old boyfriend, a
: parent.,..the person that's easiest
: to feel that feeling with. Sit with
: the blame feeling and simply accept
: it. Sit with it until the Witness is
: serene and loving in its observation.
: Sit with it until it shifts slightly
: to a letting go. This is the ideal
: thing, that the feeling would loosen
: and be released. It can be hard if
: you are jammed up with quite a bit of
: blame. I certainly have been. It's so
: much easier to give direction to
: someone else than it is to do it
: myself. With that said I'm goimg to
: follow my own advice and try this
: with more regularlity.
: --Previous Message--
: I finally made the active attempt to
: begin to process some very heavy,
: stuck, emotions that have come up
: over the past few years in romantic
: interactions where I was confronted,
: with directness, exasperation,
: confrontationalism, and combinations
: thereof, on what partners at the time
: thought were my blind spots and how
: those blind spots negatively affected
: them.
: I reacted with panic, on one level,
: which I've hung out with only enough
: to know that it's connected to a need
: (perceived need, whatever) for
: approval.
: I also reacted with blame - of the
: other person and myself. It's a deep
: and stifling response. It feels like
: it's served and continues to serve
: repression.
: I did my first session with these
: feelings this morning and for the
: most part totally numbed out.
: Any experiences with dropping blame
: when it's very very tight? Other
: thoughts?
: Thanks,
: Jen
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