Posted by John L on 9/15/2004, 3:35 pm, in reply to "Re: coworkers and karma" Some people are not the confrontational type and are bound to lose an argument with someone who is hard headed. --Previous Message--
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I'm sorry to hear about all that Bob. I've also been through some tough times.
My opinion is that Lynda should meditate sending out love towards her director, and fake a similar attitude towards him at work. If she gives out love she will have more of it in her own life.
: : What exactly is so wrong about
: telling an asshole to #### off when
: they repeatedly take liberties? Why
: should it be justified or
: rationalized? Why must these kind of
: responses always be discussed is such
: a guarded kind of way here?
: Bullies think twice about attacking
: somebody they intutively know to have
: a sword or two to their armour,
: instead going for the more
: defenceless types, the ready-made
: scapegoats that radiate an aura of
: emotional impotence. Easy prey and a
: good time had by all.
: I know this all too well from school.
: Not being allowed my own my
: 'violence' within the family, bought
: up under strict emotional guidelines,
: I walked as an emotional cripple, a
: sick young adult...and got beaten up
: at school just to make my day that
: much sweeter. When this happens, a
: man walks the world with deep-seated
: rage and hate, and that can be very
: dangerous if left unresolved. A child
: who is comforable with his or her
: anger, putting it in the natural
: order of things [as in....it's just
: normal when the need arises, no big
: deal], doesn't have this problem, nor
: the hideous baggage that goes with
: it.
: If an asshole is an asshole then they
: deserve to be told to #### off....in
: a manner of words - for your own
: personal dignity more than anything
: else.
: Just my 2p.
: bob
: --Previous Message--
: Definitely. Refraining from returning
: the angry projection lash-out is one
: thing, but indulging his symbolic
: spitting tendencies is another, I'd
: think. Sounds from here like you're
: working with honoring healthy
: boundaries. I suppose it's tricky, to
: respond appropriately and not FROM
: the anger, in the midst of it.
: Perhaps there is value and growth in
: the process of even making the
: genuine attempt.
: Jen
: --Previous Message--
: Well I do think it's wise to try to
: withdraw and not escalate the whole
: thing. On the other thing there are
: time when I have to make it really
: clear he can't (symbolically) spit on
: me.
: Thanks!
: --Previous Message--
: Hi Linda,
: It sounds like you would have to have
: almost no judgement or anger energy
: in your psychic body for this guy not
: to trigger it.
: Instant karma? I'm not sure, but I do
: remember John talking about how by
: clearing, by fully accepting your
: reactions to a person's actions, the
: other person, who may be gaining
: energy from your (and your
: coworkers') reactions to their stuff,
: no longer get the same energy they've
: been vampiring off of you/them.
: Good luck!
: Jen
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