Posted by Linda on 8/29/2004, 3:06 pm, in reply to "Re: coworkers and karma" If I'm in pretty centered shape, I feel the feelings (anger, indignation) but don't vault that emotion into any communication to him. In other words I don't bite back. I'm aware of my emotions but don't join him on his level. Usually, if I just let him stew in his own bittnerness, there's an awkward time...it's almost like he feels how inappropriate it is, because I'm not feeding energy into it. Also I tend to say RATIONAL things back to him. .....For instance if he says makes an unreasonable demand (typical) then I'll feel mad but answer back with something truthful but rational. Such as,,"This is not possible to complete for you under these circumstances etc." If I'me not very centering I spar with him, essentially fighting. I "win": this way, but sometimes it's a good exercise in standing up for myself. But in general, I do have a lot to download from work. I'm trying to make a transition into something way less stressful that involves writing and communications. --Previous Message--
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Well, when I feel harrassed or attacked I have a couple of reactions, depending on how "together" I'm feeling at the time.
Another scenario is that in group news meetings (work at a newspaper) when we have once a week planning meeting with him, I tend to be very assertive and bring up what's not working, what's dysfunctional. Sometimes he gets very upset with me, but I don't take it personally and tend to keep my cool. I think this is because I have a lot of support in those meetings because the younger reporters respect me and like it that someone is sayinG SOMETHING>
: : Linda, Aargh! This is a scene that
: sounds all too familiar to me. I
: congratulate you on working toward a
: solution. But I have a question and
: comment. How is it that humans have
: to ultimately become emotionally mute
: and or passionless in their quest for
: spirituality? I've joined a couple of
: groups where I look at people's eye's
: and wonder if anyone's home. Or is
: this an American thing? I've met so
: many delightful Italians and French
: who are larger than life with their
: emotions. And they are lovely, highly
: spiritual beings. Americans as a rule
: seem threatened by emotions, don't
: you find? I want to be in tune with
: my HC AND maintain my spark or
: passion...I don't want to have to
: lose that.
: OK. My question to you, Linda, is
: what do you tell yourself when you
: feel harassed by your boss? I mean,
: you can't just switch off your
: feelings. So what do you say/think?
: Thanks!
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