Posted by Linda on 8/27/2004, 2:03 am, in reply to "Re: coworkers and karma" By instant karma, I meant if I didn't hook into him, then would he then feel the consequence of his attack more readily from the Universe/life etc and not from my hooking into it. Does that make sense? Actually, there's a way in which I agree with you Bob, at least in a broad sense. I have told this man off several times before and I've talked to a superior about him and made it clear I won't put up with abuse. The subtle dynamics of it all still pop up, but I don't WANT to spar with him or confront him anymore. It feeds it. He may be an ###hole, but there are many things I also like about him. By getting away and withdrawing with some emotional clearing I've been able to feel a little less overcome with emotion, and more in control of ME. I tried an experiment and just sat with my anger and felt it until it began to "move" ......I also did remind myself of the things I like about him and reminded myself that the fact he's a surperior doesn't mean much to me. It's almost an abstraction. He's just another guy to me, a brother almost. One I think if often way off base. The next day after my little experiment, he was for the first time in a year very kind to me. That was interesting! --Previous Message--
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Hey guys, Thanks for the lively exchange, full of energy and feeling. It helps.
: Hi Bob,
: We might disagree, but I'm not sure.
: I wasn't talking about karma or
: anything past-life. (Personally, from
: a metaphysical standpoint, I neither
: believe nor disbelieve in karma &
: reincarnation. And that's not even
: doormat-diplomacy! :')
: I sidestepped the "instant
: karma" part of Linda's question
: because I'm not sure what it is
: (except maybe something by the
: Beatles?).
: Anyway, are you saying Linda doesn't
: need to suffer unnecessarily by
: judging her own anger? If so I'd
: agree.
: I'm thinking that anger can be
: uncomfortable, and it seems that
: lashing out can be a 'self-rejecting'
: mechanism. But in a way, who cares,
: processing isn't about discerning
: your motivation by your action...
: seems to me the heart of it has more
: to do with being with what you feel.
: Though - maybe my assumption that
: anger can uncomfortable is my own
: blind spot! Since it's just an
: emotion, if it's accepted it doesn't
: need to be uncomfortable. It's the
: avoiding of the emotion that makes it
: uncomfortable. So I guess it's just
: about looking at whether or not
: that's what you're doing as you
: express anger. ?
: I need to stop thinking.
: Maybe Linda could plan to slide into
: that editorial job after the staff
: mutiny.
: Ciao,
: Jen
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