Posted by bob on 8/25/2004, 3:34 pm, in reply to "Re: coworkers and karma" Bullies think twice about attacking somebody they intutively know to have a sword or two to their armour, instead going for the more defenceless types, the ready-made scapegoats that radiate an aura of emotional impotence. Easy prey and a good time had by all. I know this all too well from school. Not being allowed my own my 'violence' within the family, bought up under strict emotional guidelines, I walked as an emotional cripple, a sick young adult...and got beaten up at school just to make my day that much sweeter. When this happens, a man walks the world with deep-seated rage and hate, and that can be very dangerous if left unresolved. A child who is comforable with his or her anger, putting it in the natural order of things [as in....it's just normal when the need arises, no big deal], doesn't have this problem, nor the hideous baggage that goes with it. If an asshole is an asshole then they deserve to be told to #### off....in a manner of words - for your own personal dignity more than anything else. Just my 2p. bob --Previous Message--
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What exactly is so wrong about telling an asshole to #### off when they repeatedly take liberties? Why should it be justified or rationalized? Why must these kind of responses always be discussed is such a guarded kind of way here?
: Definitely. Refraining from returning
: the angry projection lash-out is one
: thing, but indulging his symbolic
: spitting tendencies is another, I'd
: think. Sounds from here like you're
: working with honoring healthy
: boundaries. I suppose it's tricky, to
: respond appropriately and not FROM
: the anger, in the midst of it.
: Perhaps there is value and growth in
: the process of even making the
: genuine attempt.
: Jen
: --Previous Message--
: Well I do think it's wise to try to
: withdraw and not escalate the whole
: thing. On the other thing there are
: time when I have to make it really
: clear he can't (symbolically) spit on
: me.
: Thanks!
: --Previous Message--
: Hi Linda,
: It sounds like you would have to have
: almost no judgement or anger energy
: in your psychic body for this guy not
: to trigger it.
: Instant karma? I'm not sure, but I do
: remember John talking about how by
: clearing, by fully accepting your
: reactions to a person's actions, the
: other person, who may be gaining
: energy from your (and your
: coworkers') reactions to their stuff,
: no longer get the same energy they've
: been vampiring off of you/them.
: Good luck!
: Jen
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