Posted by Linda on 8/11/2004, 1:22 pm, in reply to "Re: Addiction " On the other hand I would welcome a healthy attachment ....to a mate, pet, friend etc. I am wondering just what my healthy attachments are. --Previous Message--
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Well, I know what you mean. But I think a lot of my attachments are pretty addictive. Maybe I should say "overly-attached" ..I tend to be obsessively attached to a lot of stuff, and it gets me in trouble.
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: : [just checking back here after some
: time]
: Congratulations on 'kicking the
: habit' Linda, I'm four years into
: being a non-smoker, and, after 25
: years a smoker, it's starting to get
: serious now :-)
: Interestingly enough, I'd say the
: energy I had invested in smoking has
: been healed only partially and the
: other 'part' has foubnd it's way into
: other addictive processes - namely
: drinking beer and cycling, which
: quite honestly is just fine at the
: moment. Hay-ho, that's life..
: But I'd like to take up the sword
: [albeit a plastic one :-)] with your
: mentioning of the word 'attachment'
: and 'addiction' in the same sentence.
: Maybe I am misunderstanding you here
: [most probably], but I see attachment
: as something completely different -
: namely a word used more in the realm
: of human relationships. I'd say we
: can never be free of dependence and
: attachment, it's what makes us human
: and what keeps us psychiatrically
: sane....now if only I could invest as
: much energy in my relationships as I
: do in my own interests I might
: actually feel more human. Lack of
: emotional attachment in infants can
: be one of the most devastating
: psychic destructions of an early
: mind, often resulting in the
: development of intense compulsive
: addictive tendencies.
: Now it's sounding like psycho-babble
: [not difficult to do with this
: stuff], and really I'm refering to
: expereinces not that removed from my
: own. I see attachment as
: intrinsically a good
: thing...essential.
: The cry often goes up that
: 'dependence' is to be avoided at all
: costs, almost like a taboo word, but
: I think it's much more complicated
: than that. I'd say that we're all so
: utterly dependent on other people
: it's not true.
: Sadly I don't practice what I preach,
: being often emotionally isolated and
: distant from intimacy...
: Anyway, rambling here....
: bob
:
: --Previous Message--
: In our society we often talk about
: those who are addicted as if some
: people have the "disease"
: and others don't. I have this working
: philosophy that we live on an
: addictive plane of existence and
: almost everyone is somewhere on the
: curve of attachment and addiction.
: You don't have to be a raging drunk
: to have be using the
: attachment/addiction process to cope
: with/suppress feelings.
: I think this work is so enlightened
: and on the cutting edge because of
: the way it deals with the attachment
: and addiction "on this
: plane".....
: As the work continues, the addictions
: loosen and heal.....but it's a
: process.
: I was able to quite smoking a year
: ago "just like
: that"....with no real trauma or
: withdrawal. It seemed like a miracles
: but I think it was a result of a year
: or so of this type of work..
: That was a big one.
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