Posted by bob on 8/11/2004, 12:44 pm, in reply to "Addiction " Congratulations on 'kicking the habit' Linda, I'm four years into being a non-smoker, and, after 25 years a smoker, it's starting to get serious now :-) Interestingly enough, I'd say the energy I had invested in smoking has been healed only partially and the other 'part' has foubnd it's way into other addictive processes - namely drinking beer and cycling, which quite honestly is just fine at the moment. Hay-ho, that's life.. But I'd like to take up the sword [albeit a plastic one :-)] with your mentioning of the word 'attachment' and 'addiction' in the same sentence. Maybe I am misunderstanding you here [most probably], but I see attachment as something completely different - namely a word used more in the realm of human relationships. I'd say we can never be free of dependence and attachment, it's what makes us human and what keeps us psychiatrically sane....now if only I could invest as much energy in my relationships as I do in my own interests I might actually feel more human. Lack of emotional attachment in infants can be one of the most devastating psychic destructions of an early mind, often resulting in the development of intense compulsive addictive tendencies. Now it's sounding like psycho-babble [not difficult to do with this stuff], and really I'm refering to expereinces not that removed from my own. I see attachment as intrinsically a good thing...essential. The cry often goes up that 'dependence' is to be avoided at all costs, almost like a taboo word, but I think it's much more complicated than that. I'd say that we're all so utterly dependent on other people it's not true. Sadly I don't practice what I preach, being often emotionally isolated and distant from intimacy... Anyway, rambling here.... bob
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: In our society we often talk about
: those who are addicted as if some
: people have the "disease"
: and others don't. I have this working
: philosophy that we live on an
: addictive plane of existence and
: almost everyone is somewhere on the
: curve of attachment and addiction.
: You don't have to be a raging drunk
: to have be using the
: attachment/addiction process to cope
: with/suppress feelings.
: I think this work is so enlightened
: and on the cutting edge because of
: the way it deals with the attachment
: and addiction "on this
: plane".....
: As the work continues, the addictions
: loosen and heal.....but it's a
: process.
: I was able to quite smoking a year
: ago "just like
: that"....with no real trauma or
: withdrawal. It seemed like a miracles
: but I think it was a result of a year
: or so of this type of work..
: That was a big one.
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