Posted by Tania on 5/28/2008, 6:17 pm, in reply to "Jelousy / insecurity"
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Hi Raupe
I only just discovered this website. I have been doing emotional clearing for about 20 months now and I believe all our emotions go way back to when we were in the womb. God created us all perfect with a soul which is our emotions, intentions, passions, personality, longings, desires etc. From the moment of incarnation we obsorb our parents emotions and while we are in our mothers womb and after birth will continue to feel our parents emotions until such time as we are old enough to exercise our own free will. So when we are born we are already damaged souls. We have many negative emotions that are not even ours yet until we clear the emotions they remain in our soul. The only way we can clear them is to truly feel each and every one of them and release them from our soul so we can allow loving emotions fill our souls instead. The problem is ever since we were babies we have been taught not to show our emotions because it usually triggers our parents emotions and they certainly don't want to feel them...thats why we have them in the first place. By holding onto emotions we sabotage our lives and our relationships in so many ways that we are not consciouly aware of. Everything that we attract into our lives on a daily basis is here for us to feel our emotions and release them. Your jealousy of your partner could stem from a fear you had as a child. Perhaps when you were concieved your mother did not want a baby, or did not want a girl so your feel unwanted and rejected by your parents therefore why would any man love you or want you if your parents didn't. These are real deep emotions and the core to all your fears. Or perhaps your parents divorced and you have a real fear of abandonment or rejection. You need to be real honest with yourself and have a good look at what your fear is...what do you feel when you see him looking at another women...what would happen if he left you for another women. We need to learn to love ourselves at a soul level so it doesn't matter if the relationship we are in disolves..we can be happy with who we are. We should not need a partner to make us happy, we should be happy from the inside and the partner compliments us. There is so much more I can say and I have written a 10 page article about emotions myself recently that you may wish to read. If so send a reply with your email address and I will forward it to you. I hope this is of some help.
Best wishes
Tania
--Previous Message--
: Hello, I almost finished reading the
: book. For me it's an absolutely new
: approach since I tried to treat my
: lack of selfesteem with kognitive
: therapy and fought against my
: feelings and thoughts. I would like
: to go on and try this new approach
: which for me seems very hopeful.
: Right now I feel very sad and
: desperated. Im getting married in a
: couple months and I have a very
: loving partner. But Im very jelous,
: not in the way that I think he would
: be unfaithful, but that he finds
: somebody more beautiful and sexy
: than me. (I know it sounds childish
: and selfish). So I expect from him
: that he doesnt look after other
: woman and either doesn't make
: comments about their look. I feel
: like I can never relax because Im
: always afraid that I look to him and
: I can see that he looks to a very
: beautiful girl or his friends are
: telling him about one so he has to
: look. And then Im blaming him and
: seek for secure words from his side.
: Does anyone else have this problem.
: I feel quite alone and so ashamed of
: it. In a rational way I shouldn't
: even worry about it because I think
: I'm not bad looking and my partner
: gives me many compliments. Its also
: strange because I only get jelous if
: its about beauty or sexyness.....
: Sorry for those long lines, I just
: felt I had to write it down....
:
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