Posted by Linda on 2/11/2006, 5:58 pm, in reply to "Experience not expression A.K.A. witnessing not displacing" --Previous Message--
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I like what you have said here. I believe you are right...that there are various tools and pathways into emotions and that the wounded inner child needs (developmentally) to express. Perhaps it doesnt' have to be "either/or"...we can use a range of tools to healing the wounds...
: On reading some of the previous
: messages it appears that there is
: some confusion about physically
: expressing emotions i.e. crying,
: pounding pillows etc. Although i
: believe that ultimatelty the best
: method of managing emotions is to
: witness them via meditation and not
: respond to them , i think that this
: technique is quite advanced to begin
: with. Personally, i believe that it
: is important to use techniques in
: popular therapy such as pillow
: pounding, crying, raging etc and
: give full physical expression to
: emotions. Write letters, BLAME
: (although i reccommend on your own),
: shout scream, be afraid, shiver,
: hide. I think that it is a crucial
: step to give the wounded and damaged
: child inside of you a voice so that
: you can get in touch with how much
: it really hurts (think of how much
: something that you shrug off would
: hurt/feel to a child!!).Children
: often don't engage in processing
: meditation to resolve pain and
: therefore we need to relate to that
: part of us as you would a child. The
: point i am making is that it is
: important to get in touch with your
: emotions, then it is possible to
: develop the way you handle them over
: time, ie witnessing and letting them
: burn themselves out without reacting
: to them. I think a key point here is
: that expression of emotions is not
: the same as displacing them onto
: another person, even if you think
: they deserve it. If you feel that
: someone has wronged you then you may
: feel they deserve to feel the wrath
: of your emotions. This can be a
: powerful way to contact long held
: and deep seated emotions, beliefs
: and attitudes and may give you some
: relief as you think jusitce has been
: served. However, There is a skill to
: telling someone how you feel and
: that they have hurt you. In my
: experience this method will only be
: sucessful (in repairing broken
: relationships) if the other is open
: enough and cleared enough to take
: your "advice." Anyway the
: point i am trying to make here is
: that there are different levels to
: emotional clearing which vary in
: their effectiveness, but i think can
: all be helpful to getting in touch
: with emotions and then clearing
: them. Don't forget that once cleared
: you are not going to stop feeling
: and emotional "management"
: should commence. Anyway, that's my 2
: cents. Also watch your mind as it
: will try to discourage you by saying
: things like "you're not doing
: it right/good enough/making a fool
: of yourself/this is hopeless etc etc
: etc. Remember the goal is progress
: not perfection and there is not
: strictly right or wrong way of
: healing so be easy on yourselves and
: try to find what suits you best
: (from time to time).
:
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