http://www.rsdb.org/slur/ofay
It is supposedly a slur. I've heard it used by blacks about other blacks, but they were older blacks that used it. I always took it to mean an Uncle Tom.
Even with the definition I found it still fits.
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: Did not know you were black, must be the glare
: on my computer. The window is to my back and
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: I come from a multi (and I MEAN MULTI)
: racial family - and have still never heard
: that term. Is it a regional thing? What is
: the etymology of the word?
:
: Funny racist story - a family member
: was/is highly racist - black people scare
: him for some odd reason. He comes to my
: house and freaks out if he sees black
: people.
:
: Recently he found out that his Great
: Grandmother was the daughter of Freed
: Slaves.
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: Talk about a conflicted dude!
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: I agree with you about the Brother sister
: thing. And I have been called an Uncle Tom
: for my conservative leanings. I was just
: messing with you about the o-fay thing. But
: yeah it is an actual word used by a lot of
: older Blacks. First time I ever heard it
: used was back in the 80s by a gentleman who
: was in his 70s at least then.
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: Sorry, I've never ever heard that word.
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: The kids I grew up with used ''Tom'' or
: "Uncle Tom''. I knew guys named
: Thomas that would dress you down if you
: called them Tom or Tommy.
:
: Bill Cosby, no matter what we think of him
: for his lady problems , insisted on his TV
: Characters being a certain way. I heard
: interviews and he was trying to set an
: example to show the street kids that it is
: positive to NOT BE that kid. You can be a
: doctor or lawyer and have a decent normal
: life.
:
: I don't have a problem with Joe West, I've
: met a few cops like him, however, I've
: interacted with many Black Cops that don't
: act like Joe. He does not seem realistic as
: a cop. School teacher? Reporter? Doctor? I
: could buy, but not as a cop.
:
: There were these two lady cops in my home
: town - hoooo weee, they were loud, mouthy
: and tough as nails. Two of the best cops
: I've ever met in my life. Teresa and Doris.
: We were closer to Doris, she was a family
: friend and in the summer stopped by the
: house for Iced Tea or Lemonade, we'd sit on
: the porch and listen to her stories. In the
: winter, Coffee or Hot coco.
:
: Teresa - she was 2 years older than me, she
: and I flirted a lot. Never advanced more
: than that. SHE WAS HOT!!!!! Me- Not!
: Unrequited crush!!
:
: As for Iris being black, not bothered by
: that. I just don't care for her Portrayal -
: whiny, petty and immature acting.
:
: I also think she has a boring personality
: and is not a good actor. Just MHO
:
: I hate that she and Barry grew up as
: Brother/Sister - their whole relationship is
: so creepy/incestuous. Guston and Patton
: have poor chemistry. I think Pannabacker
: has better chemistry with him.
:
: As I said to Kevin we all draw on our own
: experiences.
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: O-fay is one of those black
: "codewords" for a black person
: shot thinks or acts like they're white. Or
: rather, whom other blacks perceive as
: thinking or acting like they are white.
: Black characters on tv constantly get this
: criticism. It was made against the Bill
: Cosby show for no other reason than Cliff
: Huxtable was a Doctor, and Claire was a
: lawyer. And the kids were clean cut and
: every other word that came out of their
: mouths wasn't a cuss word. I don't have a
: problem with how Joe is acting to be honest,
: but I do wish Candace Patton was a white
: redhead. That's just the Iris west I grew up
: with.
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: I'll chime in and eclark is free to correct
: me
: of course.
:
: I believe he no more identifies with how
: black people are portrayed as I do. Your
: comment to me stated this how black people
: want to see themselves portrayed and how it
: is real.
:
: Yes, it is real for many communities in
: Chicago and Detroit, but it is wildly
: inaccurate for many black families across
: the country. There was a Master Sergeant I
: worked with in the Air Force who would have
: stopped watching halfway through the pilot
: and made sure his kids did not watch it.
:
: This was not his experience and detested how
: so many black people are portrayed in TV and
: movies. It normalizes bad behavior and makes
: it almost expected by people of other
: colors.
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: I believe eclark has the same outlook.
:
: I could be wrong of course.
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