Posted by Queen B.
on 1/18/2005, 4:28 pm, in reply to "I need some support here."
129.207.75.27
Hey Sista. This is Oh so weird, because I am a junior in college and battling the same thing. It has been 5 months since I last had a perm and my goal is to go natural. But last night I said that enough is enough! I have not cut my hair off because I am waiting on a certain length because my head is kinda big. Anyway, today i just put on a hat because i decided that i was going to get a perm today. Today on the yard I have been asking a number of my friends "what should i do" so far...all but 2 say that i need to get a perm. So I thought that I should surf the web to find something or someone to inspire me not to. I notice that you wrote this letter a month ago, and I hope you have not cut your hair yet because today you and the people who responded to your cry has inspired me not to on the day I have given up. It almost makes me want to cry. I would advice you to stay true to yourself and not to worry about anyone else, because the people who matter want mind and the people whp mind dont matter. stay up my sista!
Queen B.
--Previous Message--
: Hey everyone. I stopped perming my hair about
: nine months ago, and the growth is amazing.
: My hair doesn't shed as much as it used to
: and it just keeps growing. However, for the
: past month I have had it in braids, because
: I knew I would be tempted to perm it if it
: wasn't. I still have a considerable amount
: of perm, I just can't bring myself to cut it
: off. I have been cutting it monthly, but I
: don't believe I will look attractive with
: short hair. Anyway, this past weekend I
: washed it and conditioned it,and I don't
: know what to do. I am contemplating going
: back to relaxers. I am just not confident in
: my appearance anymore, and I don't like not
: feeling like a beautiful black woman. At the
: same time, I don't want to feel like I
: wasted nine months trying to get this thing.
: But I dunno, the color is different and
: everything. I have never colored my hair,
: and I didn't realize how much the relaxers
: had lightened it. But I like the lighter
: color. Anyway, I need some support. I'm in
: college and most of my friends are still
: perming there hair and they look great. My
: mother doesn't want me to grow it out
: anyway, and no one really believes that I
: can do this thing. I want to believe I can,
: but I am starting to see that maybe I can't.
: Thanks for listening.
:
: Songbird.
:
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