Posted by Inka --Previous Message--
on 1/6/2005, 12:24 am, in reply to "Re: I need some support here."
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Hey,
I'm 15 years old, and i haven't relaxed my hair in 6 months. I've been wearing braids and twist extensions to grow it natural and because it dosen't need that much maintanance. When i was relaxing my hair it was unhealthy ...breaking off, split ends and not growing. Since I went natural my hair grew 3 inches in 6 months!! ButI don't know what to do with it when its not in the braids or twist. And it hurts so much to comb it because it is so thick. Then a friend told me about a texturizer for natural hair. It makes it soft and more managble, I haven't tried it but i will soon and keep you up dated.
: Hey girl, I wish I could offer advice but the
: truth is, I am in the very same position.
: The only difference is that I couldn't deal
: with the tangling caused by having two
: different textures coexisting on one head. I
: was forced to cut it off when I found about
: three locks in my hair after washing it one
: day. My mother keeps suggesting I go back to
: perming. It annoys me! I know for a fact
: that our natural hair can look fabulous on
: us. We just have to figure out how to make
: it work. I was permed before I was even old
: enough to decide that I wanted one. It was
: easier for my mother to manage. Perm was all
: I knew. I cut my hair just over a week ago
: and at 23 I have to learn how to comb my
: hair! That is the most frustrating part, not
: knowing what to do with it. Planning my
: outfits around a scarf or hat. Not being
: able to be spontaneous. (If you want to go
: out with me you've got to tell me way in
: advance so I can prepare myself) I just want
: a way to "relax" my hair without
: chemicals. I don't want it straight, just
: manageable. If you figure it out...please
: tell me too.
:
: --Previous Message--
: Hey everyone. I stopped perming my hair
: about
: nine months ago, and the growth is amazing.
: My hair doesn't shed as much as it used to
: and it just keeps growing. However, for the
: past month I have had it in braids, because
: I knew I would be tempted to perm it if it
: wasn't. I still have a considerable amount
: of perm, I just can't bring myself to cut it
: off. I have been cutting it monthly, but I
: don't believe I will look attractive with
: short hair. Anyway, this past weekend I
: washed it and conditioned it,and I don't
: know what to do. I am contemplating going
: back to relaxers. I am just not confident in
: my appearance anymore, and I don't like not
: feeling like a beautiful black woman. At the
: same time, I don't want to feel like I
: wasted nine months trying to get this thing.
: But I dunno, the color is different and
: everything. I have never colored my hair,
: and I didn't realize how much the relaxers
: had lightened it. But I like the lighter
: color. Anyway, I need some support. I'm in
: college and most of my friends are still
: perming there hair and they look great. My
: mother doesn't want me to grow it out
: anyway, and no one really believes that I
: can do this thing. I want to believe I can,
: but I am starting to see that maybe I can't.
: Thanks for listening.
:
: Songbird.
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