Posted by eboniqueen --Previous Message--
on 1/3/2005, 12:36 pm, in reply to "I need some support here."
151.204.13.14
Hey girl, I wish I could offer advice but the truth is, I am in the very same position. The only difference is that I couldn't deal with the tangling caused by having two different textures coexisting on one head. I was forced to cut it off when I found about three locks in my hair after washing it one day. My mother keeps suggesting I go back to perming. It annoys me! I know for a fact that our natural hair can look fabulous on us. We just have to figure out how to make it work. I was permed before I was even old enough to decide that I wanted one. It was easier for my mother to manage. Perm was all I knew. I cut my hair just over a week ago and at 23 I have to learn how to comb my hair! That is the most frustrating part, not knowing what to do with it. Planning my outfits around a scarf or hat. Not being able to be spontaneous. (If you want to go out with me you've got to tell me way in advance so I can prepare myself) I just want a way to "relax" my hair without chemicals. I don't want it straight, just manageable. If you figure it out...please tell me too.
: Hey everyone. I stopped perming my hair about
: nine months ago, and the growth is amazing.
: My hair doesn't shed as much as it used to
: and it just keeps growing. However, for the
: past month I have had it in braids, because
: I knew I would be tempted to perm it if it
: wasn't. I still have a considerable amount
: of perm, I just can't bring myself to cut it
: off. I have been cutting it monthly, but I
: don't believe I will look attractive with
: short hair. Anyway, this past weekend I
: washed it and conditioned it,and I don't
: know what to do. I am contemplating going
: back to relaxers. I am just not confident in
: my appearance anymore, and I don't like not
: feeling like a beautiful black woman. At the
: same time, I don't want to feel like I
: wasted nine months trying to get this thing.
: But I dunno, the color is different and
: everything. I have never colored my hair,
: and I didn't realize how much the relaxers
: had lightened it. But I like the lighter
: color. Anyway, I need some support. I'm in
: college and most of my friends are still
: perming there hair and they look great. My
: mother doesn't want me to grow it out
: anyway, and no one really believes that I
: can do this thing. I want to believe I can,
: but I am starting to see that maybe I can't.
: Thanks for listening.
:
: Songbird.
:
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