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Posted by pat on August 31, 2005, 5:39 am, in reply to "sucker of the decade" A good friend of mine went through a similar situation a few years ago and honestly felt like he deserved no better than a wife that cheated on him. ALWAYS REMEMBER, YOU DESERVE WHAT YOU ACCEPT! As far as I can see it, she cheated on you not once, but twice. If you accept it, life will not get better. And if you didn't want things to improve in your life, then odds are you would not be posting a message here. Personally, I have been in a lot (and I mean A LOT) of relationships where she was cheating on me. I was miserable the whole time. When I finally decided to move out and move on, I did feel worse, but only for a short while. Now, this may take months, or possibly years, to feel better about all of this, but eventually things will make sense. Life will come together for you. You will feel better about everything that has happened and maybe someone genunine will meet you and make you feel better than you have ever felt in your life. I know wedding vows do mean a lot to people, but she has obviously made the decision to not respect them. I am not saying that women should obey men, or vice versa, but at some point you need to draw the line. Also think of all the stress that this has put on other aspects of your life. You mentioned having career problems. Ask yourself "how much do people gossip" and "how much do people listen to the gossip" and "are they talking about my wife" and maybe you can see some of the problems you are having at the office. Also, realize that if you are in a profession that has a high amount of personnel interaction, all the stress that you are under about your marriage can be coming out in bad situations and causing other problems.
Above all else, you must be true to yourself.
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