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Posted by Antoinette
on October 29, 2007, 3:28 pm
I have been married for 18 1/2 years. I am tired of being married. I am not and have not been happy in a long time. He is not the problem, I am. He loves me, but I have no love for him. He goes to work, comes home, doesnt drink(used to,years ago)no drug, alcohol, or domestic abuse. But I feel trapped, I dont want sex from him, I dont say I love you to him, we dont date( not even movies). I was involved for years in an extra marital affair, and the other guy left me for my cousin.I took it really hard and even went in counseling about it. The counselor said that either I lost or buried the love I had for my husband during this affair, well that was in 2003 and it has yet to return. He will tell me that he loves me, but I dont say it back. The other man and I recently got back together on the side and he has said that when I leave my husband that he wants to be my next husband. I do still love him. I have a 10 yr old daughter that may possibly be his,and yes my husband knows this, matter of fact he is the one that pointed it out that she looks like the other guy. I asked him what if she was, he replied that well if she aint mine she mine, and if she is mine she mine. I was there when she was born and my name on her birth certificate. I asked the other man what he thought, and he said well if she not my daughter, she is my g.d.(god daughter) and I could not love her anymore than I do now. He however wont submit to a DNA test. My husband pointed out that she looks like the other guy.Should I leave and be happy? Or stay and be miserable?
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