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Posted by naya on September 19, 2007, 7:25 am please let me know if this is the right thing to do or should he just quit once and for all.
My fiance has had a past of smoking hash/dope since the past 10 years. He can be labelled as an addict as he was smoking up 24/7 and the way he describes it, he was so hooked on to it so bad that he needed a joint the first thing when he got up and the last thing before going to bed. Infact he says he would even roll a joint before going to bed so that he would not have to waste time rolling a joint when he got up in the morning. During this course of time he also experimented occassionally for a very short time with other drugs but never stuck to them as dope was his only priority. Around 18 months ago, as our relationship progressed and got more serious, he decided to quit. Initially for a few weeks or so he tried cutting down but then one day decided to just stop. He then increased his intake of regular cigarettes and still continues. He remained clean for nearly 6 months and one day while with friends took a drag from someone's joint. Then again he remained clean for around 8 months and then one day took a couple of drags from a friend's joint. He says that dope does not give this that high or satisfaction anymore but its just that at times his body craves it and i know that the past 18 months have been extremely tough for him with him trying to quit, then getting into a near death accident leaving a lot of broken bones and other problems in life. I know he has been trying really hard but now he feels he needs to do something to get it out of his system as he knows i dont like it and he also feels that if he keeps on fighting this craving much longer one day he will finally crack and become addicted like he was before smoking up 24/7. So he feels that knowing his own body and his own cravings, he has started smoking up again since a week (and is contolling his intake to 1 joint a day and there have also been days when he has not smoked up at all) and feels that he may continue this for 1-2 months till his craving dies and then he will quit again...and remain clean for as long as he can....maybe a year or 2 years....and then maybe randomly smoke up for a while again till he doesnt need it anymore.
What i want to know is that is this a good idea? At first I just thought that he was just seeking my permission to let him smoke up again and that this plan of his did not make any sense to me... but now we've talked about it and he's tried to explain all this to me. I just want to know that if this is a good idea and whether this will harm him a great deal in the longer run.
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