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Posted by gar on 10/29/2009, 8:56 am, in reply to "Re: A little reality for the guys"
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: Hey everyone,
: A few months ago I was hunting anime in a
: video store and there it was, one of my
: brother's former girlfriends... On the cover
: of an vintage adult movie, at least I think
: it was her. Its a funny story about my
: stupidity and now that he has passed on I
: can tell it.
:
: I came home early from college for the
: holidays, with my parents on vacation I
: figured Mike would be kinda lonely. Boy was
: I wrong. When I walked into the house, there
: they were several adult film actresses
: playing video games and laughing. In my
: stupidity I never asked him what his new
: girlfriend did for a living.
:
: Now before we all get images let me tell you
: the reality. They were dressed in sweats,
: and without make up, quite ordinary and
: average looking. If one of them hadn't
: mentioned that they had to get into NYC
: early the next day for a shoot I wouldn't
: even had known.
:
: The reality that these women were much like
: all the other women I had ever known, not
: some fantasy women here to please my male
: ego. It was a job for them, a role they
: played that was no more real than the body
: makeup and silly lines they had to say. They
: had thoughts and feelings about all kinds of
: things that had nothing to do with anything
: sexual.
:
: It killed the fantasy for me, but the
: reality to see them as people taught me alot
: about respecting women and not objectifying
: them as body parts. As one said to me,
: "Don't be suckered in by the lie, porn
: ain't real"
:
: Great wisdom between Duck hunt levels, media
: is not real, just flickering images. Getting
: to know and love someone is very real, and
: much more exciting.
:
: Redturtle
:
: Greetings redturtle,
:
: It seems this quote from
:
: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contentment
:
: might be off base in relation to your post,
: but for some reason it resonates with me.
:
:
: "The source of all mentally created
: dissatisfactions appears to stem from the
: ability to compare and contrast experiences
: and find reality as one is living it to be
: less than ideal.[citation needed] The
: solution is to seek out ways to either make
: experienced reality conform to the ideal or
: to lower expectations to the level of the
: experienced.[citation needed] When one can
: live in the moment with expectations in
: harmony with experiences one has achieved
: the greatest mental contentment possible.
: [citation needed] Variants of this pursuit
: are found in all religions and manifest in
: many forms of meditation and prayerful
: devotions."
:
: in peace,
: gar
:
P.S.
It also seems that contentment is built upon our discernment of reality. And maybe what's based on illusion, is illusional.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reality_testing#Reality_testing
If you have false beliefs you will not function effectively in action. So truth is the condition of getting along well in the world. (Pragmatist)
in peace,
gar
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