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Re: The 4th Step and self-image

Posted by Patt on 8/30/2006, 4:59 pm, in reply to "The 4th Step and self-image"
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--Previous Message--
: Hi There...
: I joined OA when my medication had
: first stabilized my depression and I
: was starting to feel better. I was
: working the program until I reached
: the 4th step. Because of my low
: self-esteem and knowledge that I
: alone am responsible for the bad
: decisions in my life, and for all my
: resentments, I found this step to be
: completely debilitating. I didn't
: mean to beat myself up, but going
: through this step made me feel
: terrible about myself, adn cemented
: all my bad feelings. I eventually
: left the rooms because of this,
: despite the love and support of my
: fellow sufferers.
: As a person suffering from
: depression - low self-esteem, maybe
: even self-hatred, or at the very
: least, self-dislike - how did you
: get through this step? I read the
: description of how one does the 4th
: Step on this site, but even doing
: that raised fears of the process and
: the beginning of bad feelings...
: I know the depression distorts my
: view of myself; I'm once again
: stable on my meds and am abstinent
: for today. But I want to make a
: fundamental change in my
: relationship with food...how do I
: get through this step? How did you
: do it?
: Thanks so much...
:
Dear Friend,
The Recovery Group strongly suggests
that each member needs to work the
steps with the help of a sponsor.
Trying to work the steps alone can
prove to be overwhelming as the
feelings begin to come up during
our inventory.
Remember, none of us are bad people..
we are just spiritual sick people
trying to get well and the 12 steps
are designed to do just this.
Some people find it better to keep
the inventory very simple and then
to delve into the exact nature of
our wrongs when we share our inventory
during the 5th step.
The program is not designed to make
us feel guilty instead it is to show
us that we truly are one among the many.
If you cannot find a sponsor at a
face to face meeting then you may want
to join our newcomer's loop by sending
a blank email to:
OANewcomers-subcribe@Lists.TheRecoveryGroup.Org
We also have a list and biographies
of online Sponsors that is open
to our members.
You can find out more about our
sponsor program by going to this
webpage:
http://www.therecoverygroup.org/sponsors.html
Please let us know if we can be
of further help to you.
Welcome to Recovery !!
Welcome Home !!
Love and JOY in service,
Patt

Message Thread:

The 4th Step and self-image - Marie 8/27/2006, 9:39 am
- Re: The 4th Step and self-image - timbewolfe 9/30/2006, 11:30 am
  - Re: The 4th Step and self-image - Marie 10/14/2006, 10:44 pm
- Re: The 4th Step and self-image - Brenda 9/22/2006, 2:29 pm
- Re: The 4th Step and self-image - Diana D 9/14/2006, 3:51 pm
  - Re: The 4th Step and self-image - Marie 9/16/2006, 10:28 am
- Re: The 4th Step and self-image - Patt 8/30/2006, 4:59 pm
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--Previous Message-- : : --Previous Message-- : Hi There... : I joined OA when my medication had : first stabilized my depression and I : was starting to feel better. I was : working the program until I reached : the 4th step. Because of my low : self-esteem and knowledge that I : alone am responsible for the bad : decisions in my life, and for all my : resentments, I found this step to be : completely debilitating. I didn't : mean to beat myself up, but going : through this step made me feel : terrible about myself, adn cemented : all my bad feelings. I eventually : left the rooms because of this, : despite the love and support of my : fellow sufferers. : As a person suffering from : depression - low self-esteem, maybe : even self-hatred, or at the very : least, self-dislike - how did you : get through this step? I read the : description of how one does the 4th : Step on this site, but even doing : that raised fears of the process and : the beginning of bad feelings... : I know the depression distorts my : view of myself; I'm once again : stable on my meds and am abstinent : for today. But I want to make a : fundamental change in my : relationship with food...how do I : get through this step? How did you : do it? : Thanks so much... : : Dear Friend, : : The Recovery Group strongly suggests : that each member needs to work the : steps with the help of a sponsor. : : Trying to work the steps alone can : prove to be overwhelming as the : feelings begin to come up during : our inventory. : : Remember, none of us are bad : people.. : we are just spiritual sick people : trying to get well and the 12 steps : are designed to do just this. : : Some people find it better to keep : the inventory very simple and then : to delve into the exact nature of : our wrongs when we share our : inventory : during the 5th step. : : The program is not designed to make : us feel guilty instead it is to show : us that we truly are one among the : many. : : If you cannot find a sponsor at a : face to face meeting then you may : want : to join our newcomer's loop by : sending : a blank email to: : OANewcomers-subcribe@Lists.TheRecoveryGroup.Org : : We also have a list and biographies : of online Sponsors that is open : to our members. : : You can find out more about our : sponsor program by going to this : webpage: : : http://www.therecoverygroup.org/sponsors.html : : Please let us know if we can be : of further help to you. : : Welcome to Recovery !! : Welcome Home !! : : Love and JOY in service, : Patt :

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