Posted by kathy on 7/25/2006, 7:05 am
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Yesterday we negotiated our settlement. The divorce ought to be final in a couple of weeks. As I look back over my prior posts, I realize I've come a long way and it's due, a great deal, to the people on this board. I actually laughed when I saw the things he's listed that he wanted from home. In his tool chest, he listed items down to the Pen and Pencil in one drawer and a roll of duct tape. It's like a bright light showing me how anal and selfish he is. He's changed his appearance yet again, shaved off that awful beard which only showed how weak his chin is. Guys, it was a revelation. Tom was so right ,in an earlier post, in calling them players. He gave up everything for the excitement of the chase. All the advice given here was taken to heart and I'm more & more doing things I find interesting to me alone and giving thanks daily for the help and support I've gotten from family and friends. My first husband (children's father)even called me to tell me how stupid my stbx is and wished me well. This past weekend I took and passed a motorcycle rider's course. Don't know if I need to own one but it was a very empowering thing. Yes, I wonder how this could have happened. Yes, I still miss what we had. Yes, I still feel that heaviness in my chest sometimes. But I desperately hung on the promises from Crystal, Mike, Tom and the others that it would get better and I feel like it's happening now. The sun is shining, this morning's coffee was good, I get to keep my house and land, I have a beautiful grandbaby, there are blessings galore for me to accept and appreciate and this board is one of them.