Posted by Kay on 7/18/2006, 8:08 am, in reply to "advice"
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Hi April, It's only been 6 months for me but I did have the same experience as you. My ex husband told me he missed the conversations we used to have and wanted to know if we could talk more in the future. At the time it made me mad and my thoughts were that - no - you can't pick and choose the parts that you want - I'm a whole package. I felt like he wanted my "friendship" while he ran around with other women. The typical have your cake and eat it too. I actually ignored it when he said these things and eventually he got the picture and stopped asking. We actually have very little contact except to go over issues on the house which is still on the market. Sometimes I wish I could still be friends with him because I miss the "old" him but I still believe that I deserve more and that he will someday realize what he gave up for the stupid giddy feelings that he's chasing. What I can't wait for is the time when I just don't care anymore. It sounds like your telling him that it's upsetting to you isn't working so maybe ignoring the comments will eventually lead him to stop saying he misses you. While I believe it's true that he does, it obviously isn't enough for him to leave the other woman or apologize for how much he's hurt you? Take care...