Posted by Crystal on 6/15/2006, 6:30 pm, in reply to "Mutual friends"
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If the people are just looking for juicy gossip, then tell them there is no story and walk off. You don't owe any joint "friends" a reason or your side of the story. If they really cared, they would have asked you in private and offered moral support. If it is someone you know doesn't like you? Then just say "If it were any of your business I'd have told you" then laugh... Joint friends will pick one to stick with, and also be the ones to pack tales between you and the almost ex to keep things stirred up. Offer to be friends but ask the topic of what took place to be closed. Tell them you are trying to move on with your life and it's a hard thing to do. You need to avoid bringing up the whole situation until you get yourself back on solid groud again. Who knows? Some may even tell you things you can try to regain your life... To keep your cool is not to flair up in anger, or to scream insults, but to defuse a situation. Just enjoy whoever treats you good, and those just after talepacking are not really your friend, so play it by ear... Hang in there, you will find out after awhile which friends care, and cherish them as real friends. Crystal