Posted by Kathy on 6/15/2006, 9:21 am
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Sooner or later, I knew it would happen. I will be in a situation this weekend when I will be seeing some mutual friends of ours. They know about the situation but have not said much except that they love me (heard that before). It will be a little tense for me because I'm expecting, at some point, to get his version of what happened through them. How is this best handled? It will come up again and again as time goes on. I don't want to have to feel as if I'm defending myself or explaining my side but I know he's had plenty of time to figure out a story to feed everyone. So far, all I know is, he's said he was "tired of being a puppet" and he felt like he didn't matter at home, he "felt like a piece of furniture". The awful thing is, I'm sure he's convinced himself that these things are true by now so he'll have a good story. He's probably spent the last year looking for any little excuse to justify himself. If he wanted chicken while I was already cooking steak, I'm sure he told himself that I didn't care about his opinion. Please help with some input on how to handle these situations where people tell me what's been said and then wait for me to tell my side. Do I tell what really happened? What if I break down? Do I say nothing? I don't want this to get any worse by mud-slinging. Crystal has advised me to stay cool. Not sure how to do that.