Posted by Crystal on 6/9/2006, 5:29 pm, in reply to "Re: Ashamed, lost my head"
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It takes time to believe we have to protect ourself from the person we knew so well. Those left were the peacemakers in the relationship, and it takes time to realize the mid-lifer is an enemy now, not the loved one we knew so well. It does become a game of trying to stay one step ahead of the mid-lifer. Being the calm one around people you know, and being above the mid-lifers' tactics, can help. One never knows who may be in court, or be called in. You are doing great for being in this mess such a short time! The mid-lifers try to push the right buttons and make the one left look bad, and themselves look blameless. Trick is? To see the game for what it is, and to beat him at his own game. You hang in there and give yourself time to adjust. Myself? I think you are doing a good job with all of this. Crystal