Posted by Tom on 5/16/2006, 2:30 pm, in reply to "Pain And Confusion"
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Hi Lorrie, It will not matter what you say to him Lorrie. He is in a state that only justification for his actions means anything to him. He will filter out anything that he percieves as an attack on what his behavior is. He has put up walls and will only allow those ideas that justifies what he has done as a "right" and that he deserves. At this point only support for what he is doing and has done means anything to him. He cannot face anything else. That is why you have to concentrate on yourself. Building yourself up is all you can do right now. Gathering your support group with friends and family to weather the storm that they cause. You will see with time that the storm gets less intense. The storm that they cause turns into an everyday shower. Then a trickle. Then a drop. Then nothing. They cause a big huff, but eventually those around them find out what they really are. Self-centered nothings that try to gain their happiness from others. They cannot develop their own. They cannot look at themself and realize that they are responsible for their own happiness. They blame others. You will see one day what it is. Your happiness is in you. Its hiding right now, but it will return when it perceives it is safe. Find those friends and family that can help you get through this. Never mind putting any more effort or thoughts in them. THE HAPPINESS OF YOU IS IN YOU. Take care Tom