My sisters would just dump our mom in a nursing home and walk away if given half a chance. Every couple of years when she gets an infection that knocks her for a loop and she has to go for in-patient PT to get her strength and stamina back they never go to visit her, nor call her on the phone or do a video chat. They cannot be bothered. When she got Covid in 2020, I called her every day at the hospital than the nursing facility. Two years ago when she was in in-patient PT for 3-4 weeks I visited every day. It's the same this time. My sister from VA comes to visit and she and my other sister spend all the time together off doing other things, pretty much totally ignore our mom. There are things around the house they're supposed to be taking care of this week and that's not happening. My sister works in DC for the federal government, makes good money and is supposed to be buying an ultralight foldable wheelchair so I can take our mom out places so she's not stuck at home in front of the tv all the time, and this never gets done either. Neither her doctors nor her physical therapists want her sitting immobile in front of the tv all the time. She's supposed to be getting excise and having social interactions since she has memory issues. She has a walker, but needs a wheelchair I can fold up to put in the car that is lightweight enough for me to be able to lift and carry so when she gets tired she can sit in the chair and still be out in the world. Her physical therapists suggested doing the mall walker thing earlier this year. Pre-Covid we used to go to Barnes and Noble frequently. She enjoyed going to Ikea. We used to go Kohl's and Target. A friend of mine is the director of one of our local small art museums and we would go to the opening receptions for each new exhibit. Exhibits rotate around the year, so that meant 4-5 receptions each year to go to. Plus sometimes there were special events.
My sister is still doing work from home and only needs to go into the office a handful of days per month. She visits us and works from a friend's house that has faster high speed internet. My sister who lives here is an artist who sells her work online on Etsy and similar sites. All their free time is spent out shopping, hanging out with friends, going fun places. They go away on vacation down south every summer. I'm always taking care of our mom and the house. I rarely get to go to the doctor. I never get a day off. I can't spend time with friends anymore. They just are oblivious and don't care. I keep getting told things will get done and that never happens. I'm always exhausted and feel lousy and run down. My health is just going to go downhill faster because I am expected to push myself too hard all the time. The way things are going, I'm going to wind up needing to go into assisted living in a couple of years.
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