We all want our children to grow up having good character and to be decent, honest adults.
Sounds like it. Sounds like some of you already expect your children to just know how to handle things without being taught or guided.
Did not know they came out knowing everything. WUS are you not speaking out both sides of your mouth complaining of the lack of guidance and then bashing for to much, at least he would be one of the ones who would be behaving in a restaurant even at age 6. But then apparently I must be doing something wrong because the poor kid is deprived of TELEVISION.
OM goodness I wonder what they did before it - before Hollywood attempted to hijack the thoughts and morals of our youth. Can tell you what happened after Hollywood hijacked em - moms and dads started using good ole Hollywood for baby sitters - I choose not to - just look what happens - bad manners, no respect for anyone not even themselves, druggin and drinking, casual sex and transmitted diseases, oh yes and attention seeking young ladies with colored bras under their thin shirts.
And whichever of you spoke of the young woman with the bra - my question is why was she wearing that in Walmart in the first place and do I expect to take my young son with me and not have to deal with such a thing - yes.
He is normal and yes of course it is natural that he pays attention. Will I attempt(key word here attempt) to steer him from such young ladies as he grows older - yes. Not because I think something horrible of her but because the whole point is that she is looking for attention. I.E. the piercings, hair, and colored bra in a thin white t-shirt, why would I expect her attention seeking would stop because My son was interested in her? Do I want him attempting to settle with someone who wants everyones attention? Sorry, no I do not - the point is to try to steer them in a direction that requires the least amount of pain if at all possible.
As for no T.V. - my son gets to watch television at other homes just not here in ours. Here in ours we have selected DVD's but I push reading more - my choice. Someone I knew had a daughter who had been in an accident. She had been hooked up to some machine that monitored her brain waves and I guess for fun the doctor showed them her brain on TV watching. First, they spoke to her with her eyes closed and her brain waves went crazy because she had to imagine all things occurring. Then with her eyes open and the brain waves died down because part of the surroundings she was no longer having to visualize in her brain, but still interaction was required so processing still at work. Then with the TV - flat line, no imagination what so ever, because all things are completely laid out for you and there is no need to respond in any way.
Plus look around at our video generation - seems like it aint really doin em any good.
My son does not need to see the sexualized tv commercials and the shows depicting love and marriage as non-existent and a farce. If all of you want to train your children this way - go ahead, that is your choice. My husband and I choose to train ours differently by teaching him what is right and wrong ourselves. By teaching him the things we deem important and not what society or Hollywood deems so.
Anyway I have to tell you I do not care what you all think of the way we choose to raise our son. This is our choice and he is a really good kid and believe it or not he does have a mind of his own. Funny thing when you spend time with your kids and you actually talk to them instead of either yelling or pawning them off - they feel comfortable enough to ask tough questions and learn from them.
Does he always agree with our assessments - not always but generally. Is that the point of raising children? To train them in the way you believe is right? Of course it is, those of us who take the time to train them attempt to train them in a way we believe is beneficial to them.
I would say most of you doing the bashing have absolutely no idea what you are bashing because you do not even have children. When you do and you have the knowledge to back up your feeble opinions - come on back and we will talk again. Have a wonderful life - to all of you!!!!