2. Stop worrying about the financial situation of your children and grandchildren, and donít feel bad spending your money on yourself. Youíve taken care of them for many years, and youíve taught them what you could. You gave them an education, food, shelter and support. The responsibility is now theirs to earn their own money.
3. Keep a healthy life, without great physical effort. Do moderate exercise (like walking every day), eat well and get your sleep. Itís easy to become sick, and it gets harder to remain healthy. That is why you need to keep yourself in good shape and be aware of your medical and physical needs Keep in touch with your doctor, do tests even when youíre feeling well. Stay informed.
4. Always buy the best, most beautiful items for your significant other. The key goal is to enjoy your money with your partner. One day one of you will miss the other, and the money will not provide any comfort then, enjoy it together.
5. Donít stress over the little things. Youíve already overcome so much in your life. You have good memories and bad ones, but the important thing is the present. Donít let the past drag you down and donít let the future frighten you. Feel good in the now. Small issues will soon be forgotten.
6. Regardless of age, always keep love alive. Love your partner, love life, love your family, love your neighbor and remember: ďA man is not old as long as he has intelligence and affection .Ē
7. Be proud, both inside and out. Donít stop going to your hair salon or barber, do your nails (peticure),
go to the dermatologist and the dentist, keep your perfumes (aftershaves)
and creams well stocked. When you are well-maintained on the outside, it seeps in, making you feel proud and strong.
8. Donít lose sight of fashion trends for your age, but keep your own sense of style. Thereís nothing worse than an older person trying to wear the current fashion among youngsters. Youíve developed your own sense of what looks good on you Ė keep it and be proud of it. Itís part of who you are.
9. ALWAYS stay up-to-date. Read newspapers, watch the news (not the FAKE news)
. Go online and read what people are saying. Make sure you have an active email account and try to use some of those social networks. Youíll be surprised what old friends youíll meet. Keeping in touch with what is going on and with the people you know is important at any age
10. Respect the younger generation and their opinions. They may not have the same ideals as you, but they are the future, and will take the world in their direction. Give advice, not criticism, and try to remind them that yesterdayís wisdom still applies today.
11. Never use the phrase: ďIn my time.Ē Your time is NOW
. As long as youíre alive, you are part of this time. You may have been younger, but you are still you now, having fun and enjoying life.
12. Some people embrace their golden years, while others become bitter and surly. Life is too short to waste your days on the latter. Spend your time with positive, cheerful people, itíll rub off on you and your days will seem that much better. Spending your time with bitter people will make you older and harder to be around.
13. Donít abandon your hobbies. If you donít have any, make new ones. You can travel, hike, cook, read, dance. You can adopt a cat or a dog, grow a garden, play cards, checkers, chess, dominoes, golf , wood working
. You can paint, volunteer or just collect certain items. Find something you like and spend some real time having fun with it.
14 Even if you donít feel like it, try to accept invitations. Baptisms, graduations, birthdays, weddings, conferences. Try to go. Get out of the house, meet people you havenít seen in a while, experience something new (or something old). But donít get upset when youíre not invited. Some events are limited by resources, and not everyone can be hosted The important thing is to leave the house from time to time. Go to museums, go walk through a field. Get out there.
15. Be a conversationalist. Talk less and listen more. Some people go on and on about the past, not caring if their listeners are really interested. Thatís a great way of reducing their desire to speak with you. Listen first and answer questions, but donít go off into long stories unless asked to. Speak in courteous tones and try not to complain or criticize too much unless you really need to. Try to accept situations as they are. Everyone is going through the same things, and people have a low tolerance for hearing complaints. Always find some good things to say as well.
16. Pain and discomfort go hand in hand with getting older. Try not to dwell on them but accept them as a part of the cycle of life weíre all going through. Try to minimize them in your mind. They are not who you are, they are something that life added to you. If they become your entire focus, you lose sight of the person you used to be.
17. If youíve been offended by someone Ė forgive them. If youíve offended someone - apologize. Donít drag around resentment with you. It only serves to make you sad and bitter. It doesnít matter who was right. Someone once said: ďHolding a grudge is like taking poison and expecting the other person to die.Ē Donít take that poison. Forgive, forget and move on with your life.
18. If you have a strong belief, savor it. But donít waste your time trying to convince others. They will make their own choices no matter what you tell them, and it will only bring you frustration. Live your faith and set an example. Live true to your beliefs and let that memory sway them.
19. Laugh. Laugh A LOT. Laugh at everything. Remember, you are one of the lucky ones. You managed to have a life, a long one. Many never get to this age, never get to experience a full life. But you did. So whatís not to laugh about? Find the humor in your situation.
20. Take no notice of what others say about you and even less notice of what they might be thinking. Theyíll do it anyway, and you should have pride in yourself and what youíve achieved. Let them talk and donít worry. They have no idea about your history, your memories and the life youíve lived so far. Thereís still much to be written, so get busy writing and donít waste time thinking about what others might think. Now is the time to be at rest, at peace and as happy as you can be!
REMEMBER: ďLife is too short to drink bad wine or warm beerĒ.