I think this applies here.
I think the best way to move on from this is to think about the person you want to be. Which I presume is someone who stands up for equality, and against oppression, and helps minority voices her heard and understood.
I think the best way to move on from this type of guilt is, instead of focusing on the guilt, focus on what you want to do right, having learned from what you did wrong. Then, you can begin to move past that guilt.
Because the truth is, Black and ethnic minorities do not need white people to sit around feeling guilty anymore than we need heterosexual people to sit around feeling guilty if they reckon they didn't support/understand Pride enough in the past. Their guilt doesn't help us.
When you focus on the guilt, it makes it about you, not about the issue and the people who are harmed by inequality. But when you focus on the issue, you will naturally stop focusing on the guilt, and then it will help you to move on from it.
I think it's ok to accept things that we've done wrong in the past and say, we were wrong. We are sorry and will learn from it (and then learn from it).
I have said and thought ignorant things in the past. Because I didn't know, or thought I knew, or had never been taught or told. If anyone thinks they've done no wrong in their life then they're lying or deluded. But when it comes to mistakes well, I'll leave you with another Uncle Iroh quote. It's not quite about mistakes, but I think it can translate to that, as learning from failure is learning from one's mistakes:
"Failure is only the opportunity to begin again. Only this time, more wisely."
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