I have never had a relationship. I've had a not-quite-date though! I have also never had vanilla sex! I am 29 years old.
I have played a bit of kinky stuff. I have done some bondage stuff with a few different people. It's not really my biggest turn-on, but it was fun. I have also done some tickling with people who are aware it's a Thing for me.
More recently (ie. in the last year and a half or so), I have also done a little but of spanking in a controlled scene - but my partners for these things have never been people with whom I'm in a relationship with, and they've been kinda one-off sessions.
I am not embarrassed to have never been in a relationship. I mention if it talking about dating, and it's definitely not a secret or something I try to keep out of the conversation. One of my friends who is in her 40s has only ever had 2 relationships in her life, and both were not long term (think like a few months). Also, my mother only had one relationship before my dad, and that one was in her late 20s. She met my dad in her 30s.
I think it's more common than you think - and as I've talked about my [lack of] experience to people I've met more people than you might expect who have also never or almost never had a relationship.
It's a bit trickier if you're not straight and also into kinky / non-vanilla stuff.
For me, I'm not interested in vanilla sex at all. I don't feel any great urge to try it. When I fancy someone, I want them to tickle me, and I want to cuddle them, and I'd usually like to be spanked by them. I could probably bring myself to have 'normal' sex with a partner if they really wanted to, but I wouldn't care to never go there.
That said, I am a bit more embarrassed by my lack of having never had 'sex' than I am about my never been in a relationship. I don't outright lie and make up that I have, but I don't so openly mention it. Like, I'd totally say "I have never had a relationship of any length" to pretty much anyone I know. But on the topic of sex, I would say nothing and not volunteer that information.
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